I love surprises…It gives me joy when people go
out of their way to make me happy in any way. Surprises do not always have to
be presents, it can be a random act of kindness. The spontaneity of it excites
me. However, not everyone is a fan of surprises I have discovered.
Someone I know was in a relationship, but not really. She was unsure whether she wanted to continue. The dude obviously knew
what he wanted and popped the question. He genuinely loved her and wanted to
spend the rest of his life with her but she was unsure. She was so undecided that she
left the country to study, the whole time asking him to move on, but he waited.
During that time of dating, he got her
lingerie. She didn’t know how to feel. The guy was obviously in a relationship with her
in every sense of it, while she was slightly disconnected. She didn’t know how to feel about this
surprise, happy or embarrassed.
They eventually got married… It was their first
wedding anniversary. She woke up late so had to rush out of the house and
didn’t even remember. When she got to work, a colleague who was close to her
wished her a happy anniversary and teased saying the morning must have started
out with flowers and kisses. Then the colleague asked what she did for her husband. The colleague was shocked
as she protested saying ‘what has he said to me today? Why should I be the one
to always act first?’ Her colleague, concerned, took her aside to know what
caused that outburst and asked in detail how the day started.
She narrated that
she left the house in a hurry so her colleague reminded her calmly how being married
was different from dating and said one thing to her that made her think. Her
colleague reminded her that love was not just about her. She stated that love
does not hold back and if she were in love with him which she claimed she was, she
didn’t have to wait but could be the one to say something, and she would be shocked at his
response. Her colleague encouraged her to send a message wishing him a happy
anniversary and to express how she felt about him. She grudgingly complied but
was shocked to her bones with what it triggered.
He responded with a long message professing his love
for her and apologising as he equally forgot. It was almost like a vow renewal.
She got all giddy inside, she felt butterflies that she thought had flown away.
It made her day, she walked with a spring in her step the whole day.
After
two weeks, she walked into the house to a surprise, he got her a phone. She
mentioned sometime that she needed a phone and talked of the make. He went out
of his way to get her one. When she opened the pack, her reaction was far from
what he expected. In her words, ‘I would have preferred a camera with a higher
resolution. I think I will return it and get another one’. Not a thank you,
just that. He looked firmly at her and said no. His stance was that she should not change it. She
knew then that she had messed up!
Was this woman not supposed to be happy about
the phone instead of her reaction for instance? Now this leads to me asking
what sort of reactions there should be to surprises even when one does not like them. What do you all think?
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At the moment, Surprises don't always meet me well. My reactions can be annoying to the surprise. Lol. But I do surprise people.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahaaha I hope you get to enjoy being surprised sometime too.
DeleteOh no!!! Tammy, reading this made me so guilty of plenty blunders I had made on surprises from my husband. I am bad at it infact.....I suck at it!! He has complained so many times that now he is so careful to not surprise me again and suddenly I miss it.......I miss those gestures and I don't even know how to tell him I need him to keep surprising me!!!!
ReplyDeleteOh dear! I would be honest with him if I were in your shoes to let him know that I was unsure how to react to it before, but miss it. You could encourage him to start again :-)
DeleteI love surprises! Both from the receiving end as well as giving. And because I know that it can be hard work putting together a surprise for someone you care about, the least response you expect back is a little appreciation (for all the effort put into it not complains or shoulder shrugs) lol
ReplyDeleteI know Bukky! I love the look on people's faces when I pull off a surprise for them. But those who act like they could not be bothered puts a downer on it all. For me, surprises, giving and receiving is something I hope remains in my life. lol
DeleteYou are such a good writer Ene Tammy Abah...I liked that essay!
ReplyDeleteThank you Franck.
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