It plays on the mind.
When given room, it takes over and leaves you paranoid.
Amidst the hurt and the pain, people constantly ask the bereaved to be strong.
Bereaved people can easily fall apart especially when they are not allowed to grieve in their own way.
The feeling is horrible; a heavy head, a lump in the chest, bouts of weeping, inexplicable emotions constantly running through the mind.
Self evaluation and even self-deprecation with the question of what else could have been done constantly haunt the bereaved.
Time they say will make it easier...